People who love or work with someone with ADD often feel conflicted: they want to help, but they don’t want to enable. They value the person’s creativity, but they are exhausted. Stephen Arterburn and Timothy Smith address ten myths about ADD, the pros and cons of medication, foods that help to minimize ADD, twelve strengths of people with ADD, new studies on how to calm the mind, showing empathy even when it’s hard, and more. This fresh look at ADD—not as a malady but as a unique way of thinking—shows readers that ADD doesn’t have to ruin their relationships. In fact, it can make them stronger.
Your partner’s attention deficit disorder (ADD) may not seem like a big deal at first, but eventually, the dynamics surrounding his or her impulsivity, forgetfulness, distractibility, and restlessness can really strain your relationship. You don’t want to act like a parent, yet you may feel like you can’t rely on your partner to get things done. Loving Someone with Attention Deficit Disorder is your guide to navigating a relationship with someone with ADD so you can create healthy boundaries while remaining sympathetic to your partner’s symptoms. An essential resource for every couple affected by ADD, this book will help you: • Understand medication and other treatments • Recover quickly when your partner’s symptoms frustrate you • Establish personal boundaries to avoid excessive caretaking • Identify and take care of your own needs so you can feel more relaxed
When most parenting books were written decades ago, they did not address—nor could they address—all the issues parents would face today in the era of technology and excess. Parents do not need another article that contradicts the last one they read; rather, they need insights, techniques, and strategies to tackle the issues of twenty-first-century parenting. That’s what the Understanding and Loving Your Child series of books will do. Understanding and Loving Your Child with ADHD will guide parents with methods they can use to help children who suffer from ADHD build character and competence rather than conflict, failure, shame, or disconnection.
Relationships in which one or both partners have attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) range from successful to disastrous. Partnerships affected or should I say, distorted by ADHD symptoms can bring "the worst of times." Pain and anger abound. You can barely talk to each other about problems affecting the relationship. When you do, you rarely agree. You're frustrated that you've gotten to this point, and you're disappointed that you haven't made things better.While the distractibility, disorganization, and impulsivity of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) can cause problems in many areas of adult life, these symptoms can be particularly damaging when it comes to your closest relationships. This is especially true if the symptoms of ADHD have never been properly diagnosed or treated.If you're the person with ADHD, you may feel like you're constantly being criticized, nagged, and micromanaged. No matter what you do, nothing seems to please your spouse or partner. You don't feel respected as an adult, so you find yourself avoiding your partner or saying whatever you have to in order to get them off your back. You wish your significant other could relax even a little bit and stop trying to control every aspect of your life. You wonder what happened to the person you fell in love with.If you're in a relationship with someone who has ADHD, you may feel lonely, ignored, and unappreciated. You're tired of taking care of everything on your own and being the only responsible party in the relationship. You don't feel like you can rely on your partner. They never seem to follow through on promises, and you're forced to constantly issue reminders and demands or else just do things yourself. Sometimes it feels as if your significant other just doesn't care.It's easy to see how the feelings on both sides can contribute to a destructive cycle in the relationship. The non-ADHD partner complains, nags, and becomes increasingly resentful while the ADHD partner, feeling judged and misunderstood, gets defensive and pulls away. In the end, nobody is happy. But it doesn't have to be this way. You can build a healthier, happier partnership by learning about the role ADHD plays in your relationship and how both of you can choose more positive and productive ways to respond to challenges and communicate with each other. With these strategies you can add greater understanding to your relationship and bring you closer together.An invaluable resource for couples in which one or both partners have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled partners towards an understanding and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it, and to integrate ADHD into their relationship in a more positive and less disruptive way.
Since its last revision in 1997, dozens of new treatments and philosophies about ADD and ADHD have met with storms of controversy and great media attention. Dr. Lynn Weiss cuts through the noise and gets down to the point in a human, caring, and professional way. People turn to the Weiss library for a breath of fresh air on the ADD turmoil. Is it an allergy? A chemical imbalance? A genetic thing? Lynn's answer: "Who cares?" The new edition not only touches on and dispels the most recent clinical findings, it also emphasizes the bigger perspective, focusing on the humanitarian, economic, empowerment, and diversity issues facing all of us on the ADD continuum today.
Completely revised and updated, this Second Edition spans every issue related to ADD care and treatment. New chapters focus on emerging issues, the overlap of sleep disorders, how sleep disorders mimic ADD/ADHD and/or increase the symptoms, ADHD and sleep apnea, ADHD and restless legs or periodic limb movements in sleep, sleep in children, adolesce
Navigating adult ADHD in your relationship--simple, effective strategies to strengthen your commitment Communicating and thriving in a neurodiverse relationship is possible. ADHD & Us gives couples the tools and strategies they need to connect as well as overcome the unique challenges they face on the road to long-term happiness and satisfaction. Drawing from Anita Robertson's years of practice counseling couples with ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder), this honest and straightforward guide helps couples better understand adult ADHD and how it affects relationships, while also providing the tools necessary for both partners to feel understood and respected. Learn how to avoid common conflicts, appreciate your differences, and meet each partner's needs. Together, you can make it happen. This relationship guide for people with adult ADHD includes: Five pillars of success--Learn about the five relationship pillars--praise, acknowledgement, games, growth mindset, and positive acceptance--and how they are essential in a successful relationship. A practical approach to adult ADHD--Build communication skills and deepen your connection using engaging exercises that allow both partners to share in safe and constructive ways. Modern and inclusive guidance--With expert advice based on the most-up-to-date understandings of adult ADHD, this book is designed for use in all kinds of relationships. Overcome the challenges of dealing with adult ADHD and thrive together with this simple, actionable guide.
This pioneering book explores the impact of ADHD on a couple’s sex life and relationship. It explains how a better sex life will benefit your relationship (and vice versa) and why that’s especially important for couples with one partner with ADHD. Grounded in innovative research, ADHD After Dark draws on data from a survey of over 3000 adults in a couple where one partner has ADHD. Written from the author’s unique perspective as both an expert in ADHD and a certified sex therapist, the book describes the many effects of ADHD on couples’ sex lives and happiness, covering areas such as negotiating sexual differences, performance problems, low desire, porn, making time for sex, infidelity, and more. The book outlines key principles for a great sex life for couples with ADHD and offers strategies and treatment interventions where specific issues arise. Written in a readable and entertaining style, ADHD After Dark offers clear information on sexuality and relationships and is full of valuable advice on how to improve both. This guide will be an essential read for adults with ADHD, as well as their partners or spouses, and therapists who work with ADHD clients and couples.