Understanding and Loving a Person with Attention Deficit Disorder

Understanding and Loving a Person with Attention Deficit Disorder

Author: Stephen Arterburn

Publisher: David C Cook

ISBN: 9781434712349

Category: Religion

Page: 160

View: 898

People who love or work with someone with ADD often feel conflicted: they want to help, but they don’t want to enable. They value the person’s creativity, but they are exhausted. Stephen Arterburn and Timothy Smith address ten myths about ADD, the pros and cons of medication, foods that help to minimize ADD, twelve strengths of people with ADD, new studies on how to calm the mind, showing empathy even when it’s hard, and more. This fresh look at ADD—not as a malady but as a unique way of thinking—shows readers that ADD doesn’t have to ruin their relationships. In fact, it can make them stronger.

Loving Someone With Attention Deficit Disorder

Loving Someone With Attention Deficit Disorder

Author: Susan Tschudi

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 9781608822300

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 192

View: 133

Your partner’s attention deficit disorder (ADD) may not seem like a big deal at first, but eventually, the dynamics surrounding his or her impulsivity, forgetfulness, distractibility, and restlessness can really strain your relationship. You don’t want to act like a parent, yet you may feel like you can’t rely on your partner to get things done. Loving Someone with Attention Deficit Disorder is your guide to navigating a relationship with someone with ADD so you can create healthy boundaries while remaining sympathetic to your partner’s symptoms. An essential resource for every couple affected by ADD, this book will help you: • Understand medication and other treatments • Recover quickly when your partner’s symptoms frustrate you • Establish personal boundaries to avoid excessive caretaking • Identify and take care of your own needs so you can feel more relaxed

Understanding and Loving Your Child with ADHD

Understanding and Loving Your Child with ADHD

Author: Stephen Arterburn

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 9781684511532

Category: Religion

Page: 176

View: 709

When most parenting books were written decades ago, they did not address—nor could they address—all the issues parents would face today in the era of technology and excess. Parents do not need another article that contradicts the last one they read; rather, they need insights, techniques, and strategies to tackle the issues of twenty-first-century parenting. That’s what the Understanding and Loving Your Child series of books will do. Understanding and Loving Your Child with ADHD will guide parents with methods they can use to help children who suffer from ADHD build character and competence rather than conflict, failure, shame, or disconnection.

ADHD and Marriage

ADHD and Marriage

Author: Michelle Bates Ph D

Publisher:

ISBN: 9798638953942

Category:

Page: 70

View: 546

Relationships in which one or both partners have attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) range from successful to disastrous. Partnerships affected or should I say, distorted by ADHD symptoms can bring "the worst of times." Pain and anger abound. You can barely talk to each other about problems affecting the relationship. When you do, you rarely agree. You're frustrated that you've gotten to this point, and you're disappointed that you haven't made things better.While the distractibility, disorganization, and impulsivity of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) can cause problems in many areas of adult life, these symptoms can be particularly damaging when it comes to your closest relationships. This is especially true if the symptoms of ADHD have never been properly diagnosed or treated.If you're the person with ADHD, you may feel like you're constantly being criticized, nagged, and micromanaged. No matter what you do, nothing seems to please your spouse or partner. You don't feel respected as an adult, so you find yourself avoiding your partner or saying whatever you have to in order to get them off your back. You wish your significant other could relax even a little bit and stop trying to control every aspect of your life. You wonder what happened to the person you fell in love with.If you're in a relationship with someone who has ADHD, you may feel lonely, ignored, and unappreciated. You're tired of taking care of everything on your own and being the only responsible party in the relationship. You don't feel like you can rely on your partner. They never seem to follow through on promises, and you're forced to constantly issue reminders and demands or else just do things yourself. Sometimes it feels as if your significant other just doesn't care.It's easy to see how the feelings on both sides can contribute to a destructive cycle in the relationship. The non-ADHD partner complains, nags, and becomes increasingly resentful while the ADHD partner, feeling judged and misunderstood, gets defensive and pulls away. In the end, nobody is happy. But it doesn't have to be this way. You can build a healthier, happier partnership by learning about the role ADHD plays in your relationship and how both of you can choose more positive and productive ways to respond to challenges and communicate with each other. With these strategies you can add greater understanding to your relationship and bring you closer together.An invaluable resource for couples in which one or both partners have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled partners towards an understanding and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it, and to integrate ADHD into their relationship in a more positive and less disruptive way.

Attention Deficit Disorder In Adults

Attention Deficit Disorder In Adults

Author: Lynn Weiss PhD

Publisher: Taylor Trade Publishing

ISBN: 9781461732563

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 224

View: 805

Since its last revision in 1997, dozens of new treatments and philosophies about ADD and ADHD have met with storms of controversy and great media attention. Dr. Lynn Weiss cuts through the noise and gets down to the point in a human, caring, and professional way. People turn to the Weiss library for a breath of fresh air on the ADD turmoil. Is it an allergy? A chemical imbalance? A genetic thing? Lynn's answer: "Who cares?" The new edition not only touches on and dispels the most recent clinical findings, it also emphasizes the bigger perspective, focusing on the humanitarian, economic, empowerment, and diversity issues facing all of us on the ADD continuum today.

Attention Deficit Disorder

Attention Deficit Disorder

Author: Lisa V. Blitz

Publisher: CRC Press

ISBN: 9781420004724

Category: Medical

Page: 408

View: 174

Completely revised and updated, this Second Edition spans every issue related to ADD care and treatment. New chapters focus on emerging issues, the overlap of sleep disorders, how sleep disorders mimic ADD/ADHD and/or increase the symptoms, ADHD and sleep apnea, ADHD and restless legs or periodic limb movements in sleep, sleep in children, adolesce

ADHD and Us

ADHD and Us

Author: Anita Robertson

Publisher: Rockridge Press

ISBN: 1647397057

Category:

Page:

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Navigating adult ADHD in your relationship--simple, effective strategies to strengthen your commitment Communicating and thriving in a neurodiverse relationship is possible. ADHD & Us gives couples the tools and strategies they need to connect as well as overcome the unique challenges they face on the road to long-term happiness and satisfaction. Drawing from Anita Robertson's years of practice counseling couples with ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder), this honest and straightforward guide helps couples better understand adult ADHD and how it affects relationships, while also providing the tools necessary for both partners to feel understood and respected. Learn how to avoid common conflicts, appreciate your differences, and meet each partner's needs. Together, you can make it happen. This relationship guide for people with adult ADHD includes: Five pillars of success--Learn about the five relationship pillars--praise, acknowledgement, games, growth mindset, and positive acceptance--and how they are essential in a successful relationship. A practical approach to adult ADHD--Build communication skills and deepen your connection using engaging exercises that allow both partners to share in safe and constructive ways. Modern and inclusive guidance--With expert advice based on the most-up-to-date understandings of adult ADHD, this book is designed for use in all kinds of relationships. Overcome the challenges of dealing with adult ADHD and thrive together with this simple, actionable guide.

Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?

Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?

Author: GINA PERA

Publisher: 1201 Alarm Press

ISBN: 9780981548746

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 543

View: 679

Winner of four national book awards! Praised by a "Who's Who" of preeminent experts! This bestselling guide put Adult ADHD and Relationships on the map — and remains a must-read today. Adults with ADHD, their partners and other loved ones, and professionals will find comprehensive understanding of symptoms, emotional impact, and evidence-based treatment strategies. "I recommend it highly to all couples whose troubles seem incomprehensible, and for all couples therapists it should be required reading to help them distinguish between ordinary conflict and the roller coaster effect of this syndrome." —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. "Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life." —Daniel Amen, MD "There is no better book that addresses such relationship difficulties and with such sensitivity to the complex issues inherent in them. Thank you, Gina, for writing such a useful book." —Russell A. Barkley, PhD "Gina Pera has written a stunning book that should be a must-read for all couples where one or both partners have Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder." —Anthony Rostain, MD About this Groundbreaking Book: Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? has helped thousands of readers understand how this highly variable syndrome affects them. Around the globe, professionals and couples who have elevated their lives with the book's wisdom recommend it to others. Gina Pera expertly guides you in making sense of your own Adult ADHD Roller Coaster—helping you to: · View ADHD as a variable syndrome affecting individuals · Realize how later-in-life diagnosis creates additional issues · Revise old misinterpretations that can thwart progress now · Heal poor coping responses and dysfunctional interaction cycles · Implement supports to completing routine tasks and reaching goals · Appreciate how ADHD can also negatively affect the spouses and other loved ones · Delve into "denial's" dual nature — physiological and psychological — and reach through it · Adopt proven approaches that remain extremely rare in clinical settings, especially couple therapy The science has been clear since 1994, when Adult ADHD was declared a medical diagnosis. Still, the public harbors misconceptions, and that means millions suffer needlessly. That includes millions of couples who can't understand why their lives together are so hard—often despite many attempts at therapy. The simple truth is: Everyone knows someone with adult ADHD. Yet we often misattribute the symptoms to anxiety, depression, or even laziness, selfishness, “addictive personality,” or moodiness. Some assume that ADHD means little boys with ants in their pants. In fact, childhood hyperactivity goes "underground" as the person matures, resulting in a mentally restless state. Meticulously researched and written by Gina Pera, Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? helps you recognize the behaviors where you least expect them with: · Explanations from highly respected experts · Plenty of real-life details · Empathy and compassion for everyone affected by Adult ADHD · Clear advice on proven treatment options and practical solutions. The revolutionary message is one of hope for millions of people—and a joyous opportunity for a better life. About the Author Gina Pera is an internationally respected author, speaker, and educator on Adult ADHD, especially as it affects relationships. For 22 years, she has researched and written about Adult ADHD while also passionately advocating for better treatment standards. She wrote two highly praised books and the first-ever chapter on couple-therapy in the leading ADHD clinical guide (edited by Russell Barkley, PhD). Since 2008, she's reported major original stories at her award-winning blog (the first and longest-running website on Adult ADHD): ADHDRollerCoaster.org Her first book, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?, broke new ground and won four book awards. It has been translated into Turkish and Spanish. Her second book (with psychologist Arthur Robin) is Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions. It presents the first therapeutic model for helping these couples. It is a flexible approach based on strategies that research has proven to work for Adult ADHD and for couple therapy. Known as an innovative researcher and engaging speaker, Gina has long provided education and support for the ADHD community. She has led workshops internationally and facilitates Adult ADHD discussion groups in Silicon Valley as well as an international online group for the partners of adults with ADHD. Previously, Gina was an award-winning newspaper and magazine journalist. She has recently launched an online training site for consumers and professionals: ADHDSuccessTraining.com Her blog: ADHDRollerCoaster.org From the Author, Gina Pera: ADHD is a highly variable syndrome that affects individuals, not clones. Your experience of ADHD might look little like: · Your friend's ADHD · Your parent's ADHD · That blogger's or podcaster's ADHD · Any stereotypes about ADHD I wrote this book to help everyone affected by Adult ADHD — the adults themselves, their partners and other loved ones, and professionals — learn to recognize ADHD-related challenges. When you know what you are dealing with, you have a better chance of creating positive change. When couples learn about ADHD and work as a team to address misinterpretations and dysfunctional interaction cycles, life typically improve dramatically. Even when relationships do not continue, healing takes place. Lessons are learned about digging deep into the human capacity for strength, love, and compassion —and learning new ideas. I sincerely wish that you find this guide helpful, even life-changing, and that it might inspire you to share your knowledge with others. Thank you for reading. Professional Endorsements/Reviews “Most books on marriage offer insights and help to common marital problems such as the traditional problems of conflict around sex, money, children, time, and in-laws. They offer credible solutions such as conflict management, improved communication, and problem solving skills. “This book is different. For some couples these problems are exacerbated by the often-unnoticed presence of a particular neural wiring in the brain, called Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, that makes traditional solutions very ineffective. This book describes AD/HD in detail and with empathy and helps couples with this added challenge find hope and solutions. “I recommend it highly to all couples whose troubles seem incomprehensible and for all couples therapists it should be required reading to help them distinguish between ordinary conflict and the roller coaster’ effect of this syndrome.” —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. renowned couples therapy expert and author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples "In this lucid, provocative, and authoritative book, Gina Pera lets the reader know, at a visceral level, what it's like to be the partner of an adult with AD/HD. Alternately humorous and deadly serious, the book is deeply empathic with the experience of such partners. Along the way, Pera provides important information about AD/HD's causes and treatments and provides empowerment to those who have for too long been blamed for the relationship issues engendered by AD/HD. “By showing the reality of AD/HD in relation to those who must live with its consequences every day, she provides a message of real hope." —Stephen Hinshaw, Ph.D. Professor and Chair of the Psychology Department at the University of California, Berkeley "Wow! What a roller coaster ride...Is It You, Me or Adult ADD? contains information that is just not available anywhere else. This book is sure to become the authoritative guide for couples dealing with ADD and the baggage that accompanies it. Packed with information, but not overwhelming, it is a unique and valuable resource." —Patricia O. Quinn, M.D. Cofounder and Director, The National Center for Girls and Women with AD/HD “Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life.” —Daniel G. Amen, M.D. author Change Your Brain, Change Your Life “Having a spouse or partner with ADHD and its attendant conditions often means dealing with painful, disastrous, and heartbreaking issues-—financial catastrophes, verbal and even physical abuse, substance addiction. and many others. The spouse feels overwhelmed and desperate while struggling in a swirl of chaos. But help is often nowhere to be found. Most books on ADHD completely ignore the more serious issues brought on families, and even health care providers sometimes have no understanding of it. Many group members have been in relationships for 20 to 30 years, never knowing why their lives are so different from other couples, loving their partners, but living lives of frustration and emotional abandonment. As co-moderators for nearly 10 years of an online support group, we've seen our members grapple with these painful issues, with nowhere else to turn for advice, help, and hope except each other. We've seen this book emerge from a plea from group members for a resource that addresses their needs. Gina Pera has completed a monumental undertaking of blending our stories with the latest medical advisories on treating ADHD and its many co-existing conditions. Real answers on the painful realities. We expect this book will be the bible for all of us dealing with adult ADHD. —Elizabeth Weathers and Diane Hartson Co-moderators. ADD Spouse support group "My first response to the publication of Gina's book was 'At last! Something for the significant other!' You hate to use the cliche 'long overdue' but as a physician who treats dozens of ADHD patients, until now, there's just been nothing available. Is it You, Me, or Adult ADHD lives up to all expectations. I can safely predict it will become as an 'industry standard'. As father to a son and husband to a wife with ADHD, I can professionally and personally attest to the value of Gina's important new book." —David Edelberg, M.D. Medical Director, WholeHealth Chicago “For all the couples who are struggling with ADHD in their relationship, Gina Pera has written a wonderful guide to help you navigate these treacherous marital waters. Is it You, Me, or Adult ADD? has the unique distinction of including the perspective of the partner without ADHD, which has been neglected for far too many years. The book is well researched, reader friendly, and includes insights and perspectives from a Who's Who of professionals in the field. For couples struggling with ADHD, it's the season's new must-have book and bound to become a classic.” —Michele Novotni, Ph.D. author of What Does Everyone Else Know that I Don't? “Even today, people often surprisingly ask: “Do you believe in Adult ADHD?” Confirmatory brain neuroscience answers this speculation about Adult ADHD: It’s real problem, with real and painful challenges, not a belief system. And nowhere is Adult ADHD more evident, more fully identifiable, than in our most important, valued relationships. In any long-term relationship, with increasing exposure over time, ADHD patterns endure unabated. They grind partners into a thin paste. “The reason it took so long to recognize Adult ADD is simple: Its expression is cunning and well rationalized. With Gina Pera’s help, the subtlety of recognizing and the complexity of intervening on these puzzling ADHD predicaments is refreshingly simplified. “Gina translates big questions into useful, practical, and understandable answers. Her book provides not only a good starting place for the ADHD discussion, but also detailed follow-through for the real recovery process.” — Charles Parker, DO Medical Director, CorePsych “While there is increasing awareness of how common and difficult ADHD can be, there are no resources available to help explain the nature of ADHD to those who live closest to it in adulthood: the spouse. “Gina Pera has combined a real feel for the disorder with sound reporting skills and the spice of those who tell the story best: the couples themselves. This is a book based on science, but it captures the art of helping couples cope with and move beyond the challenges that ADHD creates.” —Margaret D. Weiss, M.D., Ph.D. Director of Clinical Research in Child Psychiatry at Cambridge Health Alliance, Cambridge MA. “Gina Pera has written a stunning book that should be a must-read for all couples where one or both partners have ADHD. Combining her own experiences, a thoughtful synthesis of the clinical and research literature, and a creative study of her own design, she has grasped the complex ways in which ADHD affects relationships and has translated her comprehensive expertise into a highly readable and extraordinarily helpful guide. “Using the metaphor of riding a roller coaster, she describes the ups and downs of intimate relationships in frank and open ways, including rich descriptions of all-too-common scenarios that inevitably stymie couples, and offers solutions that are both imaginative and practical. Her prose is extremely effective, at times funny and at other times poignant, and her ability to capture the subtle dynamics of partnerships affected by ADHD is nothing short of extraordinary. “What is particularly stunning about her achievement is the way Ms. Pera has captured the intricacy of ADHD, including its far-reaching effects on executive function and emotional regulation. Equally impressive is her talent for framing the issues in comprehensible language, with answers to frequently asked questions, quotes from partners with and without ADHD, and snippets of dialogues that are completely genuine. “Best of all, this book offers hope and guidance to the millions of adults whose lives have been challenged by ADHD, by providing clear and useful ideas and a richly elaborated framework for addressing the myriad stresses that ADHD imposes upon intimacy and friendship. “Kudos and thanks to Ms. Pera! I will make this book required reading for all my patients. It is nothing short of a tour de force!” —Anthony L. Rostain, M.D., MA Medical Director, University of Pennsylvania Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program. Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine “As any partner of an adult with ADHD can attest, research clearly shows ADHD's pervasive effects on a person's ability to manage life's many demands. This often leaves the partner to pick up the pieces, despite the ADHD person's seemingly good intentions. “When an adult has ADHD, his or her romantic partner ‘has’ it, too. Alternately confused, optimistic, and resentful, the partner rides a roller coaster as he or she tries to understand why the relationship seems so unbalanced. Gina Pera has been there and has authored a guide that offers understanding for the confused, practical strategies for the frustrated, and hope for the despondent. “This book will be a lifesaver for both partners as they strive to create a more satisfying relationship and a happier, more productive life together.” —Ari Tuckman, Psy.D., M.B.A. From the Back Cover Is Someone You Love... · Forgetful? Disorganized? Distractible? Procrastination prone? · Easily bored? Irritable? A couch potato or always on the go? · Suffering from sleep problems? · Prone to "mis-hearing" or "mis-remembering"? · Addicted to shopping, tobacco, videogames, work--or worse? Learn Why... · Most adults with ADD aren't physically hyperactive. · Many can focus—when their interest level is high. · Many therapists and physicians fail to recognize the signs of ADHD—or know how to provide evidence-based treatment. · Symptoms can sabotage your finances, intimacy, and even your health. · Externally supporting Executive Functions can help people with ADHD " show what they know" · ADHD awareness can save your relationship—and maybe even your life! "For all couples therapists it should be required reading to help them distinguish between ordinary conflict and the 'roller coaster' effect of this syndrome." —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. author of Getting the Love You Want "Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life." —Daniel G. Amen, M.D. author of Healing ADD. Until now, however, no books existed that combined both a scientific understanding of adult ADHD with pragmatic recommendations to guide these adults and their partners in coping, problem-solving, and otherwise addressing the difficulties they face in sharing a life and a home. Gina Pera's book does so with an admirable balance of current scientific information mixed with sage advice and wise, practical strategies based on the current science. There is no better book now that addresses such relationship difficulties and with such sensitivity to the complex issues inherent in them. Thank you, Gina, for writing such a useful book. —Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D. author of Taking Charge of Adult ADHD and Adult ADHD: What the Science Says About the Author Gina Pera is an internationally respected author, speaker, and educator on Adult ADHD, especially as it affects relationships. For 22 years, she has researched and written about Adult ADHD while also passionately advocating for better treatment standards. She wrote two highly praised books and the first-ever chapter on couple-therapy in the leading ADHD clinical guide (edited by Russell Barkley, PhD). Since 2008, she's reported major original stories at her award-winning blog (the first and longest-running website on Adult ADHD): ADHDRollerCoaster.org Her first book, Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD?, broke new ground and won four book awards. It has been translated into Turkish and Spanish. Her second book (with psychologist Arthur Robin) is Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions. It presents the first therapeutic model for helping these couples. It is a flexible approach based on strategies that research has proven to work for Adult ADHD and for couple therapy. Known as an innovative researcher and engaging speaker, Gina has long provided education and support for the ADHD community. She has led workshops internationally and facilitates Adult ADHD discussion groups in Silicon Valley as well as an international online group for the partners of adults with ADHD. Previously, Gina was an award-winning newspaper and magazine journalist. Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Foreword from a preeminent international ADHD expert: Only within the last 15 years has adult ADHD been recognized as a valid clinical disorder. Yet at least 40 years ago—and possibly a century—the scientific and clinical literature acknowledged its existence. Today, we know ADHD to be more impairing than most other conditions seen in outpatient psychiatric and psychological clinics—including anxiety disorders, dysthymia, and major depression. In short, the scientific evidence is overwhelming for this adult version of a disorder long associated with childhood. "In particular, current research details how ADHD can adversely affect all major life activities, including marriage or cohabiting relationships and the skills intimately involved in maintaining a household and raising a family—including driving an automobile, working a job, managing money, taking care of one’s health, and parenting. "Until now, however, no books existed that combined both a scientific understanding of adult ADHD with pragmatic recommendations to guide these adults and their partners in coping, problem-solving, and otherwise addressing the difficulties they face in sharing a life and a home. "Gina Pera’s book does so with an admirable balance of current scientific information mixed with sage advice and wise, practical strategies based on the current science. There is no better book that addresses such relationship difficulties and with such sensitivity to the complex issues inherent in them. "Thank you, Gina, for writing such a useful book." —Russell Barkley, Ph.D., author of ADHD in Adults: What the Science Says and Taking Charge of Adult ADHD

Is it You, Me, Or Adult A.D.D.?

Is it You, Me, Or Adult A.D.D.?

Author: Gina Pera

Publisher: 1201 Alarm Press

ISBN: 9780981548708

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 369

View: 896

Presents a guide to maintaining a relationship with an adult diagnosed with the disorder, with information on the basics, challenges, and options for treatment.

ADHD After Dark

ADHD After Dark

Author: Ari Tuckman

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781000084702

Category: Psychology

Page: 388

View: 491

This pioneering book explores the impact of ADHD on a couple’s sex life and relationship. It explains how a better sex life will benefit your relationship (and vice versa) and why that’s especially important for couples with one partner with ADHD. Grounded in innovative research, ADHD After Dark draws on data from a survey of over 3000 adults in a couple where one partner has ADHD. Written from the author’s unique perspective as both an expert in ADHD and a certified sex therapist, the book describes the many effects of ADHD on couples’ sex lives and happiness, covering areas such as negotiating sexual differences, performance problems, low desire, porn, making time for sex, infidelity, and more. The book outlines key principles for a great sex life for couples with ADHD and offers strategies and treatment interventions where specific issues arise. Written in a readable and entertaining style, ADHD After Dark offers clear information on sexuality and relationships and is full of valuable advice on how to improve both. This guide will be an essential read for adults with ADHD, as well as their partners or spouses, and therapists who work with ADHD clients and couples.